Recovering Together
10-12 week programme for the non-abusive parent and their children
The effects of domestic abuse can continue to be felt within family relationships long after the abuse has ended.
Families may find themselves struggling with communication, trust, big emotions, or understanding the impact of what they have been through.
Recovering Together offers a safe and supportive space for non-abusive parents and their children to strengthen relationships, make sense of their experiences, and build new ways of connecting.
Through shared understanding and positive experiences, families can move forward together and create a future that feels safer, stronger and full of possibility.
Contact us to refer your family
Frequently Asked Questions
Recovering Together is for the non-abusive parent and their primary school-age children (we recommend ages 6–11) who have experienced domestic abuse.
You don’t need to have left the relationship recently, many parents find this programme just as valuable if the abuse happened several years ago.
If you’re still experiencing post-separation abuse, such as through finances, legal proceedings, or child contact arrangements, this programme can be particularly helpful for you.
You do need to no longer be in the abusive relationship itself.
However, we understand that the relationship ending doesn’t always means the abuse stops, so if you’re still dealing with controlling behaviour through legal or financial channels, or around contact with your children, you’re still very welcome on this programme.
Recovering Together is a flexible family recovery programme that recognises that every family engages differently. Support is tailored to individual needs and may include group sessions, one-to-one mentoring for children and young people, parent support, and opportunities for families to reflect and learn together.
The programme typically runs over 10–12 weeks, with separate but connected strands for non-abusive parents and their children.
For children and young people
Weekly group sessions and/or individual mentoring support (one hour per session). Through age-appropriate activities, discussions and creative resources, they are supported to:
- develop emotional literacy and emotional regulation skills
- build understanding of healthy relationships and boundaries
- increase personal safety and confidence
- explore a psychological framework that helps them better understand themselves, their feelings and patterns of communication with others
For parents
12-week online programme (two hours per session) which focuses on:
- rebuilding parenting confidence and self-esteem
- understanding the impact and dynamics of abuse
- navigating post-separation challenges
- processing experiences in a safe and non-judgemental environment
- learning practical psychological tools that support self-awareness, healthy communication and positive relationships
By supporting both children and parents, Recovering Together helps families strengthen relationships, develop shared understanding, and move forward with greater confidence and connection.
We offer one-to-one support for children where a group isn’t the right fit. Just let us know when you get in touch and we’ll talk through the options with you.
You can refer yourself, or be referred by another professional or service.
If you’re not sure whether Recovering Together is right for you, you’re welcome to get in touch and we can have an informal conversation before you commit to anything.
Recovering Together is completely free to join, as are all of Oasis’s services. We’re a charity, and we never want cost to be a barrier to getting support.
If you’d like to give something back once you’re in a position to do so, we’d gratefully welcome a donation.
“I felt like I had just emerged from a train crash, the wreckage was everywhere. I was in shock, in a daze, afraid of everything and everyone and in a constant panic. The Recovering Together parents’ group was a lifeline. The team created a space of emotional safety and taught me so many valuable things. They did some incredible mediation sessions with me and my teenage daughter, helping both of us to understand each other and communicate, which took a lot of skill. My ex still makes life difficult, but I feel so much stronger and able to reach out for help about this. Me and my children are 100% in a better place.”
Alice