Your Fundraising Efforts

Your Fundraising Efforts

We are so fortunate to have a fantastic community who fundraise, volunteer and donate to help keep people in Kent safe. Below is some of the work that's been done this autumn, a massive thank you to everyone who has helped.

Member Grants

We were very grateful to receive a donation of £1000 in the form of Community Member Grants from District Councillors Barry Lewis and Karen Constantine to purchase a range of books to help children come to terms with and understand the trauma they have suffered because of the abuse they have witnessed or even suffered themselves in the family home.

Fundraising Manager Loukia said, “These resources are much needed. We know that the effects of domestic abuse are devastating and inter-generational and also that they impact on children’s future happiness and educational attainment and we are very grateful to Barry and Karen for their support”.

Councillor Lewis said '' I am delighted to support your charity and your important work that you do in Thanet'

Cllr Barry Lewis and Bernadette Hawkes

Cllr Barry Lewis and Bernadette Hawkes

KM Assault Course:

Well done to Kat Cheesman and her team who took on the KM Assault course this October. They did fantastically well as a team coming 4th over all and managed to raise £200 along the way. Kat said 'We've all been suffering the last few days, I don't think I've ever ached so much in my life'. Well done Kat and team and thank you!

Team photo: Kat Cheesman & Team

Team photo: Kat Cheesman & Team

Addington Street Revival Fair

Celebrity hairdresser Marcello Marino teamed up with the Addington Street Revival Fair on Sunday 3rd September. Marcello provided haircuts in exchange for donations while a team of Addington Street Revival Fair volunteers organised a bric a brac stall. The event was a fantastic success and the team raised an impressive £800 for Oasis.

Marcello, Becky and the Addington Cheque

Marcello, Becky and the Addington Cheque

Cornwallis

Thanks to a generous grant from Cornwallis Lodge of the Freemasons, children at the Refuge have been able to enjoy a number of Summer activities including a sports day and picnic as well as access to several local attractions such as Howletts, Wildwood and swimming sessions. These fun activities are so important to help mend the mother and child bond often damaged following stressful experiences, as well as provide the exercise and fun times that all children deserve.

Cornwallis Sports Day

Cornwallis Sports Day

Inner Wheel

The Inner Wheel of Margate chose Oasis as their Charity of the Year and donated a fantastic £1,000 towards our work. Thank you for your fantastic support.

Photo: Chairman Derrick Downs with Susan Midgley of Inner Wheel Margate

Photo: Chairman Derrick Downs with Susan Midgley of Inner Wheel Margate

Serenaders

On Sat 15th July we attended and gave a talk at the Serenaders Ladies Choir charity concert in Palm Bay. Not only was it a really enjoyable evening, but we also received donations from the group totalling £607, for which we are truly grateful.

Our thanks go to the Choir and to organiser Janice Regan and for all their support.

The Serenaders Ladies Choir charity concert

The Serenaders Ladies Choir charity concert

St Lawrence College

Thank you to the Senior School Pupils at St Lawrence College, Ramsgate for raising a fantastic £929.87 over the course of last year at a number of events celebrating the International nature of the College. Events included a Fashion Show, Music and dance performances, raffle and food stalls. The amount raised is a credit to the students' hard work and efforts.

Fundraiser Dee Murphy & St Lawrence College Students

Fundraiser Dee Murphy & St Lawrence College Students

Boxing Gala

The Rotary Club of Thanet's annual Boxing Gala was another fantastic success raising a whopping £32,251.50. We were delighted to be awarded a donation of £5000 towards our work. Our thanks go to everybody involved in staging this incredible event.

Rotary Boxing Gala raises monmey for Oasis

Rotary Boxing Gala raises monmey for Oasis

Batchelors Patisserie

A huge thank you goes to the team at Batchelors Patisserie for not only choosing us as their Charity of the Year and fundraising but also donating any unused stock to help feed the families who stay with us. Thank you Batchelor's!

Gillian Turner of Batchelors Patisserie

Gillian Turner of Batchelors Patisserie

Walpole Bay Swimmers

Congratulations to the Walpole Bay Swimmers who took to the waters at Hartsdown Pool in support of Oasis at the annual Rotary Swimathon. Their dedication to Oasis is shown year after year as they fundraise and swim to support our work. This year they had three teams of six swimmers which is an impressive turnout – thank you and well done to you all!

Photo: Walpole Bay Swimmers take on the Swimathon

Photo: Walpole Bay Swimmers take on the Swimathon

From everyone at Oasis, thank you.

 

Alcohol, Families and Domestic Abuse

Alcohol, Families and Domestic Abuse

The 13th to 17th of November is Alcohol Awareness Week. This year’s campaign is being spearheaded by Alcohol Concern whose focus is ‘Alcohol and Families’. The aim is to start an honest conversation about the impact of alcohol misuse on individuals and their families, challenge stigma and to signpost anyone who needs support towards the help they need.

We thought this would be the perfect time to talk about the ways in which drugs and alcohol use can impact on families who experience domestic violence and to highlight this resource produced by DrugRehab about the links between abuse and substance misuse.

Here are four ways we encounter substance misuse in our work:

1.    Numbing the pain of abuse

People who experience abuse often deal with post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, depression, sleep deprivation and physical pain. Abuse is also linked to the increased likelihood of miscarriage and stillbirth, and of victims developing lasting health problems, such as mental health disorders, eating disorders and physical health problems such as chronic pain or gastrointestinal disorders.

People have different strategies for coping with the trauma of their experiences. Self-medicating with drugs or alcohol as a coping strategy is a route to feel the pain less keenly. This use can create addiction, that often then increases a person’s vulnerability to further abuse.

Services must be aware of these links and remain open and non-judgmental in order to create the best outcomes for our clients, fear of stigma from services can be a major barrier to engagement.

2.    Abuse using drugs or alcohol

Domestic abuse is the habitual use of power and control exerted over someone with whom the perpetrator has a relationship. The abuse can be physical, emotional, financial or sexual. Drugs and alcohol can be an implement of abuse, used to keep the victim vulnerable and dependent.

Substance-involved domestic abuse can include:

  • Introducing partners to substances of abuse
  • Forcing partners to carry, sell or buy drugs
  • Encouraging substance use as a form of control over partners
  • Prostituting partners in exchange for drugs or money
  • Preventing partners from seeking and receiving substance abuse treatment
  • Enabling use and consequently disabling recovery

3.    Association with violent incidents

Research from the University of Bedfordshire found that within intimate relationships where one partner has a problem with alcohol or other drugs, domestic abuse is more likely than not to occur.[1] Research from the American Society of Addiction Medicine also shows that both victims and abusers are 11 times more likely to be involved in domestic violence incidents on days of heavy substance use.

Abusing drugs or alcohol may exacerbate an abuser’s pre-existing violent tendencies and is therefore a major risk factor for domestic violence. However, it is important to note that substance use is not the cause of domestic abuse but that substance use increases the likelihood of a violent incident.

4.    Using the alcohol as an excuse for violence

An abusive person will use excuses and apologies to manipulate the person they are abusing. These excuses will seek to minimise the abuse and lay the blame for their actions elsewhere. Common examples might be to blame childhood experiences, mental illness or the use of substances before an incident.

These excuses claim a lack of control over the abusive tactics used, but abuse is always a choice. Perpetrators are able to control themselves in public, are able to control the way they present themselves and to hide evidence of their abuse.  

Those who engage in domestic violence are responsible for their actions despite any reasoning they use to rationalise their behaviour. Those who perpetrate domestic violence choose to wilfully engage in abusive behaviour, and therefore they are the sole cause of domestic violence.

Finding Help

Drug and Alcohol Support

If you are living in East Kent (Ashford, Canterbury, Dover, Shepway, Swale and Thanet) you can contact East Kent Community Drug and Alcohol Service.

They support anyone who has problems with drugs or alcohol. If you are worried about anyone, including yourself, and want to get help, please call 0300 123 1186 or email eastkent@rapt.org.uk.

Domestic Abuse Services

Oasis provides services in Thanet and Dover. You can find out how to make a referral here.

Anyone living in Kent can call Victim Support on 0808 168 9276 to access your local services.

 

[1] Galvani, S. (May 2010), ‘Supporting Families affected by substance use and domestic violence’, The Tilda Goldberg Centre for Social Work and Social Care, University of Bedfordshire, ADFAM,p.5

 

Tackling Adolescent to Parent Violence

Adolescent to Parent Violence (APV) is a concerning form of interpersonal abuse characterised by a young person using abusive behaviours to gain control over their parent or carer. It is beyond normal rebellious teenage behaviour in that it usually involves the adult being in fear of the young person, and having to order their life around the wishes of the adolescent.

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The prevalence of this issue has become increasingly apparent in recent years as more and more practitioners are coming across APV in the families they're working with. A quarter of young people exposed to domestic violence go on to demonstrate harmful behaviour within their own relationships. In 61% of cases the abuse is directed at their mother.[1]

In order to better equip our partners in recognising, understanding and combating this form of abuse, Oasis have teamed up with other domestic abuse charities around Kent to help Kent Safeguarding Children Board develop a training session for professionals which we will be delivering on Kent Children Safeguarding Board's behalf. This half-day session will be available to book through the Kent CPD Online soon.

Project Synergy, a 12 week programme, involves both the parent and child in support aims to tackle this violence. Find out more about it, our other programmes and how to refer here.

[1]http://www.safelives.org.uk/sites/default/files/resources/Young%20People%20practice%20briefing%20for%20IDVAs%20FINAL.pdf

A big thank you to our Funders

We would like to say a huge thank you to The Henry Smith Charity and The Brook Trust Fund who have committed a further 3 years' funding for our mentoring programme. We mento young people who have been affected by domestic abuse or other adverse childhood experiences and who are deemed to be at risk of forming unhealthy intimate relationships of their own.  Early Intervention and Prevention work like this is of vital importance in breaking cycles of abuse that can have impact for generations.

 

Oasis celebrates Diwali!

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We celebrated Diwali at Support Group yesterday, as part of our ongoing programme of recognising the six major world religion’s traditions and festivals.

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One of our Peer Mentors brought Gulab Jamun (sweet doughballs) and lacha mithai (a type of sweet candy) to share with the group, and we all ate lots of samosa, pakora, sweets and home baked biscuits- all served off silver platters! We decorated Rangolis to put in the lobby of our building, to welcome our guests, and the children and staff helped to draw a large Rangoli design in our garden.

As Diwali is the festival of light, our staff wore bright, colourful dress and the group all joined in with lighting up some beautiful lanterns which we used to decorate the room.

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Support Group felt that this event had been a real success and gave us all a better insight into the meaning of this festival.

We would like to wish you all a very happy Diwali!

Friends Indeed!

The Friends of Oasis raised just under £2,000 for OASIS Women’s Refuge at their 3rd Annual Lunch held at the Yarrow Hotel Broadstairs on Tuesday 10th October. 

The Friends of Oasis Committee celebrating at the 3rd Annual Lunch

The Friends of Oasis Committee celebrating at the 3rd Annual Lunch

Guests from all over Thanet came together to enjoy a delicious meal prepared and served by the staff of East Kent College. Chair of the Friends, Maggie Elliott, made the introductions and Deborah Cartwright, CEO of Oasis Women’s Refuge Service, was the guest speaker. Ann Angus and other committee members organised the raffle and Glen Cheesman gave the closing remarks. Sincere thanks are given to all the ‘friends of friends’ who supported the event, the Yarrow for supporting the Charity and to the numerous benefactors who helped the make the event such a huge success. 

National Work Life Week

Its National Work Life week between October 2nd and October 6th 2017, and Oasis have been looking at ways in which we promote well-being in the workplace, and positive work-life balances.

Earlier in the year, staff from Pfizer volunteered their time and talents to refurbish our resident’s dining area, as part of a ‘Pfizer’s Colleagues for a Cause’ scheme. The benefits of corporate volunteering are numerous, such as: increasing employee wellbeing, encouraging a greater sense of balance between work and other activities, and an overall increase in the employee’s work satisfaction.

Oasis were delighted to be able to host the team from Pfizer, as it meant that the resident’s communal area in our refuge was transformed into a bright, attractive and comfortable living space. This has made a huge difference to the resident’s experience of living in the refuge and ensures that they are able to enjoy the room in which they eat, help the children with their homework and participate in communal activities.

One volunteer from Pfizer said: Making a difference matters and resulted in a truly noticeable difference…not only in the room that was refurbished, but in the hearts and minds of those on both the giving and receiving ends. Seeing the exceptional results of the Pfizer colleagues’ contributions, and receiving the very special appreciations that were expressed by the Oasis colleagues and residents was remarkably rewarding for all who were involved!’

You can follow Oasis on Twitter and Facebook to find out more about our National Work Life Week celebrations.

Are you interested in Volunteering with Oasis? Get in touch with us at: volunteer@oasisdaservice.org.

Oasis celebrates Rosh Hashanah

The Support Group had a wonderful time yesterday, celebrating Rosh Hashanah- the Jewish New Year.

We spent the morning learning about Jewish traditions during this time of celebration, and shared sweet cakes and biscuits as well as apple pie. The Support Group and their children particularly enjoyed eating apples dipped in honey.

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After the Support Group had ended for the day, staff, volunteers, and the women and children went down to the beach to throw breadcrumbs into the sea, symbolising the end of an old year, and the new beginnings before them. The highlight of the day was blowing a ‘shofar’ horn all the way down to the beach, which both the children AND staff members really enjoyed!

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We will be learning about Diwali in October, and are looking forward to joining in the celebrations for this exciting festival.

Oasis wishes Shanah Tovah to everyone!

St Lawrence College International Fundraiser

Dee Murphy with Senior Students Tomife and Bilkisu

Thank you to the Senior School Pupils at St Lawrence College, Ramsgate for raising a fantastic £929.87 over the course of last year at a number of events celebrating the International nature of the College. Events included a Fashion Show, Music and dance performances, raffle and food stalls. The amount raised is a credit to the students' hard work and efforts.

If your school could benefit from an assembly or workshop from Oasis get in touch at fundraise@oasisdaservice.org

Oasis Sports Day!

Our Peer Mentors arranged for Sports Day to take place a few weeks ago, as part of the programme of Peer Mentor Summer Events, designed to give our residents and their children the chance to get active, explore Thanet, and most importantly, have some fun! 

Our guest blogger, Natasha Vignon, has written about the experience, for both the residents and the Peer Mentors: 

The sunny skies were the perfect match for the atmosphere of Oasis’ sports day event.

The event, made to bring a community together, gave the children an chance to play games such as rounders and Connect Four under the sunshine in the park whilst sparking the opportunity for the residents to come together and spend time with other residents who may be going through the same issues as them.

Sat along the big green in the park, the children were feeling animated as they played Hook-a-Duck before all jumping up to race against each other in the sprint and the egg & spoon race. Meanwhile the mums got a chance to bond and create new friendships with each other over a cream bun.

One peer mentor said that the occasion could be used as a distraction from their day-to-day struggles, whilst another said that the event would provide the residents with a “safe, good time.”

“Today shows the women that they’re not alone.”

Oasis at Margate Pride!

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We were honoured to be able to attend Margate Pride on the 12th August, at Dreamland. Our team of wonderful volunteers were really generous in giving their time to help us raise awareness of the work that we do, as well as getting lots of feedback from people attending Pride about how we can continue to deliver the best service possible to our local communities. We even got to march in the Pride Parade, with our beautiful banner that our Support Group designed, which was a real highlight of the day!

One of our volunteers, Ellen Peet, has written a report about her experience- if you want to find out more about our time at Pride, read on!

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The Serenaders Ladies Choir

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On Sat 15th July we attended and gave a talk at the Serenaders Ladies Choir charity concert in Palm Bay. Not only was it a really enjoyable evening, but we also received donations from the group totalling £607, for which we are truly grateful.

Our thanks go to the Choir and to organiser Janice Regan and for all their support.

Broadstairs Rotary Club Donation

Our thanks go to the Rotary Club of Broadstairs for this fantastic donation of therapy equipment to use with the young people we work with. As well as a great selection of art and craft supplies, and carrying crates for our therapists, our young people now also have "Tangles", a therapeutic fidget-toy that helps them to deal with difficult emotions and anxiety.

Oasis Ball Fundraiser Success!

An evening of glitz and glamour held at The Pavilion on the Sands in Broadstairs has raised £10,000 for Oasis Domestic Abuse Service.  Over 120 guests enjoyed a complimentary drink on the Pavilion’s veranda, which boasts one of the best views in Thanet, courtesy of event sponsors Artemis Recruitment, followed by a 3 course meal in the ballroom.

The charity auction, called by the inimitable Frank Thorley, included lunch for 4 at London’s impressive SKY Garden which went for over £400 and a unique Yachting Experience donated by local businessman Peter Curtis which fetched over £900. All funds raised by the auction and raffle were then doubled by match-funding sponsors Santander whose staff came along to help on the night.

Oasis Fundraising Manager Loukia Michael said, ‘It was an incredible evening which simply would not have been possible without the hard work and support of Kim and Frank Thorley who have supported Oasis since we first opened our doors to those affected by domestic abuse, and who have helped us over the years to keep many women and children safe from serious harm’.

Birchington-based Thanetian Weddings and Events gave their time to personally decorate the room which looked magnificent dressed in Oasis colours and chandelier style table decor. Guests danced into the early hours to music by local band Co Co.

Dee Murphy from Oasis said, ‘it was wonderful to see so many local businesses come together to support The Oasis Ball. I would like to thank our generous sponsors: Thorley Taverns, Santander, Thanetian Weddings and Events and Artemis Recruitment as well as the firms and individuals who kindly donated to the auction and raffle, thank you!’

Oasis Celebrates Eid

Yesterday's support group was amazing. We started the morning with a taster session of meditation, after finding a safe quite space the group really enjoyed it and want the instructor to come back regularly!! After the meditation we got into the kitchen, preparing for our Eid celebration.

The support group, our refuge residents and staff got together in the dining room. One of our peer mentors brought her famous pakoras, we had biryani, samosas, quiches, salads, Gambian curries and mashed potatoes. As you can see we put on quite the spread. Three members of the support group dressed in their traditional dress the colours in their clothes were amazing.  One member of the group completed henna on everyone that wanted it done.

Every child was given a small bag of new coins as it is the tradition that all children receive new coins at Eid.

Oasis celebrates six religious festivals to celebrate in the refuge each year. It's a way to learn about different cultures, but more importantly, it's really fun and we get to share things that are important to us.

We are already looking forward to Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year in September.

Golf Day Hole Sponsors - Hall of Fame

We'd like to thank our Golf Day 2017 event sponsors and 18 hole sponsors, who helped make this event a great success.

Our sincere thanks goes to event sponsors: Barclays Bank, Spurling Cannon, Lanes Printers and our Hole Sponsors: Standfast, Finns, Elgate, TW Services, Blaze Signs, Thorley Taverns, Saunders Electrical, Euromarine, TW Reco Pro, Grand Garage, Inspire People, Weston Holdings, Keel Toys, Highway Services, Business Computing Solutions, Cooke & Co. and Drinks Warehouse.

We look forward to seeing you next year!

East Kent College Community Day

Our warmest thanks go to all the students at East Kent College who created these stunning pamper hampers for the women and children in our Refuge as part of their Community Day. So much thought and effort has been put into each and every one. We're truly grateful for all your support - it means a lot to know that people care.

Dee Murphy with staff from East Kent College

Dee Murphy with staff from East Kent College

Fundraising Success on the Fairways!

The Oasis Golf Day at North Foreland Golf Club on Friday 28th April proved to be a great success raising over £6,000 for the charity. 

The sun shone on the over 40 players who took to the course. Amongst them were Kent County Cricket stars Mitch Claydon and James Harris who joined forces with 2 lucky local teams on the day.

Play commenced with a shotgun start at 12:30. On course, players were treated to whiskey and water, served by volunteers from event sponsor Spurling Cannon on the 10th Tee while a Mini convertible donated by Barretts Group of Canterbury advertising auction prize 'Win a Mini for the weekend' was on display on the 18th Tee. 

Taking first placewas Club Chairman, Keith Rumblo's team; 'Rumblo's Ramblers' with a score of 95 points with the Boys & Maughan Team coming not far behind in 2nd with 91 points. David Rundle hit Nearest the Pin on the 7th hole and Clive Cain was Nearest the Line on the 10th. All winners received golfing prizes generously arranged by club professional Darren Parris and sponsored by Lanes Printers of Broadstairs. 

Dee Murphy, Community Fundraiser at Oasis said 'We are absolutely delighted with how well our first Golf Day went. We are so grateful for the fantastic support received from the local golfing and business communities as well as the excellent hospitality and warm welcome from the club, which all helped make the day a great success. We're already putting plans in place for next year!'

In the evening, guests were treated to a 2 coursemeal, which was followed by an entertaining charity auction expertly run by Club Chairman Keith Rumblo and vice Chairman Mike Bastow. All of the funds raised through the auction and raffle were generously matched by Barclays Bank helping to boost the charity pot and raise extra, valuable funds for those affected by Domestic Abuse.

After the success of the Golf we are now looking forward to our next event which is The Oasis Ball taking place at The Pavillion in Broadstairs on Friday 23rd June. Tickets for this event are £35 per head and can be purchased here: www.oasisdaservice.org/oasis-events/oasisball or by calling the Fundraising team on: 07753 447237.