It’s completely normal to find leaving an abusive relationship difficult. On average it takes seven attempts.
Abuse often develops gradually, making it harder to recognise at first. Over time, confidence can be worn down, making decisions feel overwhelming.
There are many reasons why someone might stay, or leave and return multiple times. These might include fear (especially that the abuse could escalate), financial concerns, stability for children, housing, or feeling isolated.
Emotional factors can also play a significant role. You may still love your partner, feel hopeful that things will change, or feel a sense of responsibility towards them. Trauma bonds and cycles of abuse can make leaving even harder.
If you’re finding it hard to leave, it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It reflects the reality of your situation – and you’re not alone in feeling this way. If you’d like to talk things through, we are here to support you.