12-year-old Lottie* moved into our refuge with her Mum in early 2022, having fled the domestic abuse she’d experienced for most of her young life. She was initially very shut off from talking about her experiences and was referred to our mentoring service so that she could have a safe space of her own to […]
The coercive, controlling behaviour of Alina’s partner was so extensive that it was hard to see the red flags until taking part in an Oasis Programme helped to make the invisible prison visible. Here’s her story… Curiosity masked coercion I didn’t realise I was in an abusive relationship. Having experienced domestic abuse as a very […]
Domestic Abuse can happen to anyone. Male victims don’t always know that what they are experiencing is abuse and often suffer in silence. For some, they are scared of being ridiculed or disbelieved. Paul is a business owner. A number of years ago, he separated from his wife, who kept their children with her in […]
“That was really tough hearing Mum like that, she was crying, she’d had chunks of her hair pulled out”. Children do not ‘witness’ domestic abuse, they experience it. Yet we somehow imagine them as being passive in families where this abuse happens. They are not, they are living it. Please be aware that this film […]
A third of domestic abuse starts or intensifies during pregnancy. This is why we provide refuge for those who need safety at the most vulnerable of times. We support them and baby on every step towards building an independent and safe new life free from abuse. Please be aware that this film is powerful and […]
When Oasis opened its doors in 1994, two women a week were being murdered as a result of domestic abuse. This figure remains the same and our services are as vital as ever. Our mission is to increase safety for victims, rebuild lives and create lasting change, supporting them in refuge and on every step […]
Starting a new life isn’t easy. Creating a safe life is even harder when you’re fleeing abuse. Our refuge is vital for building a safer future for every woman we help. Please be aware that this film is powerful and may bring to mind your own difficult experiences, or those of your children. We advise […]
At Oasis one of the services we provide is Refuge accommodation for women and children who have had to flee their homes for their own safety. They often arrive with very few belongings and are frightened and traumatised because of the abuse they have suffered. Our first priority is to settle families in and help […]
Rachel was referred into the Oasis Court support (IDVA) service for help around a court case involving her ex-partner. In her first call she said that her biggest problem was her ability to pay for housing; she was living in private rented accommodation on a joint tenancy with the perpetrator and now that he was […]
I met my ex-partner through a friend. We dated for 2 years and everything was fine. We finally decided to move in together and I shortly fell pregnant. When I was 3 months pregnant the physical abuse started. I can remember a time when he attacked me concentrating on hitting my head. I was covered […]
